Update: This post was voted as a 2011/2012 GirlGuidesCANblog Big Deal Seal winner in the Growing Guiding category! Bravo blogger Karen!
Several months ago I put a post up on my personal blog about becoming a Guider. The GirlGuidesCAN blog picked it up and after a short series of emails back and forth, I was asked to be a guest blogger, blogging about being a first-time Guider. This is my fourth post (and very late!) in a series of posts about my first year in Guiding. Don’t forget to read my earlier posts: First Impressions, My First Unit Meeting, and Girl Guide Cookies.
A Week in the Life of a Guider (or Not for the Faint of Heart)
On 25-Jan-12, at 3:34 PM, Talya (administrator of the GirlGuidesofCan blog at the National office) wrote:
I can’t believe we are already into January, almost February! I’m following up to see if you will be able to write-up more of your blog posts for us. You do know how much our readers love your pieces! Cheers and I look forward to hearing back from you – at your leisure. –Talya
Crap. She found me. I thought my stunned virtual silence would make her think I’d moved away or migrated south or had broken all my fingers and was unable to type. Better write back and admit that I knew I missed my deadline of January 1. Here goes.
Sent: January-27-12 10:36 AM
Subject: Re: Follow up
I haven’t forgotten about my posts… I’ve just ignored them! And I’m sorry about that but to be honest, I’m not sure how to write the one that was due on January 1: a week in the life of a new Guider. I find that right now my time is completely dominated by Guiding and I don’t want to scare anyone off who reads the blog and is considering getting into Guiding. Does that sound stupid? I also don’t want to sound like I’m whining about how much I’m doing at the moment. I really do love it… it’s just very time consuming because of the two units. However, if I write it up next week, things should be a lot more settled so it won’t seem like such a drain on my time when I write my post. Would submission on February 5 or so be okay? — Karen
Phew. Maybe that will buy me some time. Fact is that my life is dominated by Guiding right now – insanely so. But of course, I also have three kids – 7, 5 and 1 – who like their share of my time as well – not to mention parent council and church obligations. And apparently I have a husband around here somewhere. Likely buried under the constantly-ignored mess. In other words, I’m feeling pulled in all directions. And it’s totally my own fault. I have trouble saying no. Ooh, email from Talya….
Date: January 27, 2012 4:19:10 PM GMT-05:00
Subject: RE: Follow up
No problem at all! Ignoring is the best way to get things off your list :). Funny thing is that as I was reading your email about not having time to write your post about week in life of Guider – I thought that was the post! Maybe this piece isn’t a long one but instead about how challenging things are almost like a love hate relationship. Why don’t we say that you’ll submit something for Feb 10th. I have material to fill in and it will give you a bit more time to breathe. Cheers and have a great weekend. –Talya
Which brings us to today… February 10, 2012 and here I am writing up my post because (typically) I’ve put it off until the last second. Again. I blame it on my new addiction to Words with Friends. It makes me wonder if I’m an over-achieving procrastinator.
Yeah, that’s a thing.
And I had to laugh at Talya’s suggestion about a short post. Hah! I don’t know if I have the ability to write a short post. Add “verbal diarrhea” to my list of afflictions after “over-achieving procrastinator.”
Let’s back up to a week or so ago to take a look at my life last week. Ready? Be forewarned though… this is not for the faint of heart (or for those with little time).
Saturday, January 28, 2012
Just back from an amazing training day (“January Thaw”) put on by our Ottawa Guiding Community. Loved it. Favourite parts were the sessions on dancing and the other one on games. Also, loved gleaning ideas from other Guiders: must book sleepover at Nepean Museum in future. Also, get Inuit throat singers to come to Sparks.
Sunday, January 29, 2012
Loved January Thaw but meant John had to work all day today to catch up after getting nothing done yesterday but changing diapers and playing in snow (sounds awesome to me… minus the diapers). Today was all about the kiddies: we played outside, baked, played board games and, okay, I did some planning for Brownies.
Monday, January 30, 2012
Sent girls off to school and then started the Safe Guide paperwork for our Sparks sleepover on Friday while ignoring Henry. Yeah, yeah, DCFTBP, I know, it’s really late. But we just decided to join in on the sleepover so I missed the deadline. It’ll be fine. It will be fine, right? Crap. I better email Sara. She’ll put me at ease. And Sheila. Sheila knows everything. She’ll tell me it will be fine.
Okay, so possibly it won’t be fine based on the slight tone of panic I inferred from the emails I got back. Double crap.
Okay, submitted forms and begged for forgiveness, pleaded stupidity and oozed desperation. That was Sheila’s advice (not the stupidity part, that was my own idea). Okay, onto Brownie stuff. Have to write intro letter to new Brownie starting today. Thank the stars that Lynn (Resource Guider Extraordinaire) is coming to dance with the Brownies today so I don’t have to do much planning.
Tuesday, January 31, 2012
Sparks tonight! Must get all forms ready to give parents for sleepover without giving off impression that I don’t technically have permission to take all these girls to a sleepover (trying not to think about it every waking moment) but first Kindermusik, then skating with school, then piano tuning. Thankful (again!) for Lynn coming to dance with the Sparks! Ooh… have to get badges ready to hand out, too.
Wednesday, February 1, 2012
CRAP! Just got email telling me that “the Safe Guide Database is down and my Safe Guide case won’t be assessed for 10 to 14 days.” PANIC ENSUES.
Call phone number in email. Leave message. Desperate message. Please, please help me. Many Sparks counting on me. Bake pie as therapy.
PHEW. Thank you Jennifer, whoever you are. Just got call telling me that they were aware of my SG case and they’re getting it assessed but I should expect the assessor to give me a virtual slap on the wrist when I get my assessment back about the lateness of my forms. I’ll take that for the team if it means my Sparks get to go on their sleepover. And I get to sleep on a concrete floor under giant play structures while Sparks and Brownies keep me awake. Wait a second…..
Drink tea. Lots of tea.
CANPAR box arrives – many badges, new fleece for me. Start sorting badges.
Start preparing future Safe Guide forms for Brownie visit to Parliament Hill. Not setting myself up for this kind of panic again.
Thursday, February 2, 2012
Is this week over yet? Holey Moley.
Head to MEC to pick up Therm-a-rests for Hope and me. I’m not sleeping on the concrete floor at Cosmic Adventures without something between my sleeping bag and the floor. My almost-40-year-old hips are not willing.
Get email with approval for sleepover!!! Monster sigh of relief. And no slap on the wrist. Everything is coming up Karen! Sweet.
Friday, February 3, 2012
Started the day with a chiropractic adjustment. Must be in prime condition for tonight’s sleepover.
Tidy, play, glass of wine. Necessary to get ready for tonight.
Pack. Nurse Henry so I don’t end up leaking through my Guiding shirt.
Head to Cosmic Adventure with a Spark who doesn’t stop talking the entire drive there. Excited much?
Had a great time. Actually got some sleep. Drank lots of coffee. Had great chats with fellow Brownie and Sparks Guiders from our area. I think this is one of the major benefits of doing these events as a group.
Saturday, February 4, 2012
Head home. Drink coffee. Week done.
Wash. Rinse. Repeat.
So that was my week. I realized something very important in noting down my Guiding activities for a week: I’m doing too much and by the end of the week of noting it all down, I was actually feeling resentful, which caught me by surprise.
I don’t want to feel resentful. I really and truly love Guiding but two Units is a lot. This exercise also made me realize that I don’t delegate enough and so I ended the week with a message to Julie, the other Owl, asking her to take on all the arrangements for cookie blitzes because I honestly couldn’t fathom working on that this week. And I’m going to do the same with one of the other Sparks Guiders.
But it can’t end there. I have to start saying no to things, and not just Guiding things. I also have to pass more of the meeting planning over to Crystal Owl. I’m supposed to be going back to work in September and I can’t fathom keeping up this amount of involvement and working full-time. It just won’t work.
When I started as a Guider in September, another Owl (Kathy) said to me that she could easily spend four hours a day on Guiding. At the time, I wondered how that was possible. I totally get it now. On average, yeah, I could probably spend that amount of time on it between the two units, and it could be more if we had a big Brownie group, which thankfully we don’t.
What Talya said in her email is right: it is a love/hate thing. I love Guiding. I won’t be quitting. I get so much joy out of it. I look forward to our meetings and events and the training and getting together with other Guiders. But I also hate how much time it takes some weeks. And I wonder how I’ll be able to do it next year.
So, what do we do? How do we ensure we don’t resent it, still love it, not hate it (too much), and do better at delegating and getting more Guiders?
And also, how do I deal with my affliction of an over-achieving procrastinator and, perhaps more importantly, with my verbal (or written) diarrhea?
By guest blogger and Guider Karen. Karen will be offering her thoughts on being a new Guider with Girl Guides over the next few months.
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